I often ask people to share their most salient experiences of the past year. In most cases, they were experiences that resulted in meaningful dialogue with someone else. In some cases, it was actually just that – catching up with an old friend or relative who knows you really well and reminiscing on pleasant memories, some being silly or embarrassing ones that you can laugh at now but perhaps not at the time. Great conversations really are spices that make the meal of your bigger life taste so much better. But you probably already knew this. So what about having those same type of conversations … with yourself?
Aristotle proclaimed that ‘you are what you think’ and if you buy into the premise that what you think is essentially a running monologue or self-commentary on what you are experiencing, then you are really how you talk to yourself. Therefore, talking to yourself, having great conversations as you would in dialogues described above, is a skill set that is worth exploring. In this context, talking to yourself is quite similar to talking to others. For a great dialogue conversation, you want to be in very comfortable place, listen, laugh, cry and just be true to your emotions without any filters. The same goes for monologue conversations.
This week, have at least one conversation with yourself in this manner. Listen to yourself. Watch the tone of your words and change things just as you would in a dialogue with your best friend so that the end result is feeling really good about all that was said. What you will find very quickly is that the dialogues you have after these kinds of monologues will be some of the best you have had!