Not sure how many of you listen to music when doing something physical like a walk, jog, bike or hike. I’m fairly certain that while listening to the music, there will be one song that will come on that you really like, that get’s you pumped up, pick’s you up, more than the previous songs did, and pushes you to do whatever you are doing both with more enthusiasm and better form. Have you considered why that is the case with that particular song? Or if you can choose songs like that strategically before a big event requiring you to be at your best?
Whether it is a song, a picture or a memory of something that excites you, these emotional enablers cannot possibly make you taller, or bigger or smarter. They cannot change your IQ or the physics of your body. What they do is change the emotional composition of your body. These are ‘feel good’ enablers, pick me ups, because they have a special meaning to you, rewire your focus by redirecting your neuropathways (thinking) from ordinary thought or lack of focus, to a positive place allowing you to return to the present moment. In this mindful state, you begin to enjoy your surrounding by being more aware as opposed to not being mindful and thinking of 20 other things that might be on your mind. You do not need to be a neuroscientist to understand this concept as just being aware of it intuitively is sufficient to appreciate these emotional enablers. What is worth exploring, however, is how, as a leader, you can leverage these enablers in a business meeting, for example, when you notice the team losing focus. You might be a parent or a coach and notice the same mind-wondering occurring that is compromising someone’s ability to perform at their best. By keeping inventory of what these enablers are for important people individually and for teams collectively, you can insert them strategically to bring back enthusiasm and focus in the same way a great song can for a runner.
This week, pick three people in your life that you interact with frequently and whose well-being or performance is important to you. Think of 1-3 emotional enablers for each one. It might be a song, a picture, a story, an achievement, something you sense would have an emotionally enabling impact. In your interaction with them, at a time you see them losing focus or wonder, take a pause from the proceedings and use the enabler. If it worked, you should observe an immediate change. If it did not, try another enabler. You will find this kind of intelligence, emotional intelligence, to be highly effective. By looking for times when focus is lost in others, you in effect are being focused yourself. Being present like this and orchestrating experiences so all can be at their best is a very empowering state of being.