Category Archives: Mentoring

I see GREEN people

coloredpeopleI had a wonderful conversation with a wonderful friend last week. At about the two hour mark, I got asked how it is that I assess people I meet. I have been asked that question before by others and myself. The process has evolved over the years. Continue reading

Listen !!

listenIn reading several human capital magazines and online forums in the past few months, there seems to be a growing recognition of the epidemic of poor listening skills, especially at leadership levels. I was recently asked if there was a connection between listening skills and EQ. Yes! Continue reading

Right Advice

There is a wonderful scene in “Father of the Bride” (Steve Martin comedy movie) where he tells his daughter to put a sweater on because it’s cold outside and she ignores him several times. Then her fiancée asks her to do the same and she immediately puts it on. The same good advice was not heard from one source, but immediately embraced from another. Continue reading

Coaching is not Motivation

Last week I spent time with a coach of a professional team. He came to my office and confessed that he realized that all the things he had learned and mastered in life were no longer enough to work with athletes almost 40 years younger than him in this world of constant connection and transparency. He made a decision that before the start of the new season, he was going to learn something new. My first question was what troubled him the most. His response? “I have great athletes who lack desire and hunger to succeed. How can I get them motivated?” Continue reading

Anonymous Mentoring

Formal learning, or institutional learning, which is the idea of learning formally from a designated, certified teacher in some kind of a structured format (e.g., schools, conferences, workshops, speakers, webinars, etc.) is a relatively new concept of learning. It’s only about 150-200 years old. Prior to that and since the advent of time, the oldest and quite possibly the most effective way of learning we human beings have used, has been mentoring. Hundreds of years ago, for example, if one wanted to be a carpenter, one would find someone in their town/village or someplace nearby and learn from them. In most cases, these apprenticeship models had no time frame … it was not limited to a semester or year or four years. Continue reading

Mental Coaching vs. Emotional Coaching

I have the great privilege of working with many individual athletes and sports teams. Last week, I spent time with one such team and their coaching staff. The head coach is a remarkable former athlete whose success was, in large part, because of his work ethic, grit, and tenacity. He is, without doubt, an overachiever. He is as passionate about coaching the sport as he was playing it.  However, he has had some issues transferring his vast knowledge and experience to his players. He becomes frustrated when his players don’t perform, and seemingly, don’t try to perform as hard as he did. Continue reading

EPowerment Principle #4: Mentoring

mentoringOf the three previous blogs on the five learning principles for EPowerment – this one is likely to generate some divergent perspectives. A couple of qualifiers up front – EPowerment, the amalgam of Empowerment, Emotional Intelligence, and leveraging the E-world, is the idea of disseminating decision-making down the proverbial hierarchy so that good and real-time decisions are made by people most close to customers, clients, vendors, suppliers and other stakeholders. In order for this to happen, those on the front lines have to feel like they are all the tools and resources necessary to make those decisions so that wheels are not reinvented, mistakes are not duplicated and best practices are employed. Our 4th learning principle is mentoring – and I define it in the very classical sense of the term acknowledging that there are a myriad of models of mentoring and coaching. The classical model is to learn from someone who has literally done what it is that you are trying to do. Hundreds of years ago if you wanted to be a carpenter, who did you learn from? A carpenter of course. You would hardly go to the town mayor or the blacksmith no matter how old or wise they were to learn carpentry. Continue reading